Just to let you know before I even start telling about the latest adventure, it was not a good one and if you don't like bad, bad language, just stop reading now.
I have seen some awful people in my day as a server. This guy that I had the "pleasure" (sarcasm) of serving tonight made me wish I could quit on the spot. He was a gigantic ASSHOLE! Not only was he ugly in the physical sort of way, his personality did nothing to approve upon his appearance. This jerk walks in with three attractive women. I seat them in my section, because I am a closer and unfortunately for me, it was my turn. He starts bitching right away about the table he is sitting at, when he picked the damn thing.
"I don't want a booth," snidely he comments.
"If a table is more to your liking, how is this one?" I politely offer a close one.
"No I want that one over there, don't you have a bigger table?"
"I can make any of these tables bigger for you if you like." I reply.
"Fine, I want this one. And I want it made larger now."
Now I am thinking, "Well if your fat ass stomach wasn't so fucking big you wouldn't need a bigger table."
Everyone seats themselves immediately after I expand the table to go with this jerks expanding waistline. Since I work for a corporation, I have things I am required to say to each table.
"So have you ever dined at a _____ before?"
"Of course we have, that is why we come back. Why do every time I come in here someone asks me the same damn question?" was his asinine reply.
"I am sorry sir, we ask everyone that in order to know whether to inform them or not about how generously we season our steaks. It is a tradition not to have a steak sauce on our table. Also, some guests do not like a large amount of seasoning for digestive reasons. It is our way of letting us know whether or not to inform you."
"Well that is just plain stupid. Just take our order I want to eat." hillbilly style.
"May I start you out with something....."
"You can stop talking now, I will have a sweet tea.. ect"
Rude ass! He was talking to me from then on out as if I was a sixth grader and that I would mess up everything. He proceeds to order for himself and one of the women at the table. The woman is looking embarrassed. She starts to say she likes something that he requested be left off of her food. He begins to treat her like an idiot and says "Fine then, we won't order the Cheese Fries." She ducks her head like she is afraid of this man.
First off, she is a nice looking woman. He was indeed an unattractive man. Not just because he is a fat ass. I have a fat ass too. He is just fucking ugly. I talk as little as possible to this table for the rest of their stay. But witnessed him talking to her. He constantly treated her like shit. Hell I bets he gives his own ass more respect when he wipes it.
I came so close to telling this egotistical bastard what I thought of him. If I had a job lined up already, I would have.
Verbal abuse is still abuse. If you sit there and let someone tear you apart emotionally and mentally you are being abused. If you cower every time someone who supposedly cares about you, speaks to you, you are being verbally abused. If you do not value yourself for who you are, and only let what everyone says to you influence you, you are not only receiving that abuse, you are inducing it upon yourself. I will tell you like I do and have all of my children. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. For if you do not love yourself for who you are, and live you life like you want too. You are not being true to yourself. Life is too damn short to sit there and let someone else control you and make your life miserable. There is too much misery and pain in life already, don't let someone add it to you.
And don't be like the affore mentioned man. He spent $82.30 and left a $4.70 tip. Talked to his woman as if she was a dog. Treated his server as if she was an idiot. Constantly walks around thinking his shit doesn't stink, but he is shit himself. Believe me.. there are enough assholes in this world. We don't need more of them.
Today's positive reinforcement statement follows.
"Karma is real and around you. Being true to yourself will surround you with those who really care."